(Words) On: Viewing folks as 'available' on a Social Network/The bf/gf 'bragger'. How the two begat each other...

This is how I honestly see some of you looking at your followers. Like this shit is Getadickpussy.com or some shit.

I see (and hear) from MANY MANY PEOPLE on the subject of folks either 'Tweeting/socially networking' like they are available. Many a rant. Many a tweet. Even seen a blog post or two on the subject.


"He/She is on here tweeting like they are single..." - is the most common form of the tweet usually coming from folks who have 'found out their little Twitter/Facebook crush has someone or is married.


Ditto on the subject of folks 'Talking about their significant others' too much on a social network.


 "Why does she (mostly but sometimes he) have to tweet about HIM ALL THE TIME? " - The dudes that want to fuck her basically....

I am going to attempt to 'briefly' talk about each of them as it seems you folks out here can't make up your mind/are a lil clueless or are just straight up idiots.


Being social = being available???

This is what some of you seem to be saying out here. First of all, HOW THE FUCK DOES ONE GET ON A SOCIAL NETWORK AND 'ACT SINGLE'? I mean unless we are on Match.com or some bullshit, I didn't know that ANNOUNCING TO THE WORLD THAT YOU HAVE A MATE in EVERY OTHER TWEET was mandatory out here. I didn't know that folks had to be out 'announcing' shit on THE REGULAR for a certain sect of folks who seem to think that every social setting is an opportunity to 'holler'. What kinda BULLSHIT IS THIS? I'm supposed to know you like me/are catching feelings OVER A GOOD MORNING/interaction OUT THIS BITCH? Get the fuck outta here WITH YOUR EMOTIONALLY AVAILABLE ASS. If you are that easy to...Yet you are the SAME FOLKS OUT HERE SAYING 'Niggas are out here REALLY FALLING IN LOVE ON THE INTERNET THOUGH?" Yeah....Okay. Pot it is good to see you are staying 'Black' as usual...- Kettle.

I mean YOU DO REALIZE THAT THE WHOLE POINT OF BEING ON THE INTERNET IS TO INTERACT WITH FOLKS RIGHT? As in, you actually have to engage in conversation? Now I am not saying cats aren't out here flirting and shit but COTDAMM. Have some perspective about this shit and realize that sometimes, your 'Spidey senses' are off and it is YOUR FAULT. Not the other person.

Now I know that some of you think that when a person SMILES at your awkward looking ass, they are trying to holler but that is VERY HARD TO GAUGE over the Internet. People pass compliments EVERY DAY ON THIS JOINT and I would expect that you take them with 'a grain of salt'. I see that I am wrong though 'cause I have COUNTLESS NUMBER of tweets in my TL every day about someone 'tweeting like they are single'. Do better folks.




"I assumed they were single because they said nice things to me and never talked about their significant other in a good OR BAD WAY. So I just assumed they didn't have one..." - Some of you gumps out here

WRONG!!!!!- Charlie Murphy. Maybe the reason why they don't talk about their 'relationship' is because they don't WANT ANYONE IN THEIR BUSINESS. Maybe...just maybe...they have learned that the more you talk about it, the more folks fuck with it and that people can't talk about what they don't know about. You know...they don't want to give folks ammo. Have you paid attention to just how folks are out here once they find out you are in a relationship? They feel like they can (hell I comment on folks shit all the time in the 'spotlight") comment/dissect/rip apart/try to come between/embarrass folks over every single aspect of it. Why WOULD anyone want to subject themselves to such petty shit? I know I don't. Fuck that.

Or ..or...or maybe..JUST MAYBE NOW...they have figured out that the ONLY TWO PEOPLE WHO HAVE TO WORRY AND DEAL WITH THE RELATIONSHIP ARE...wait for it.... THE TWO PEOPLE INVOLVED!! So they don't have to 'discuss it' with the 'World' or vent to the outside on a public forum. Or even give DAILY UPDATES ON IT...good (Oh my wife/husband/girlfiriend/boyfriend is so sweet 'cause they did....) that can be later be used against them when they give bad updates (That motherfucker...I hate when he/she does....I'm single for the night 'cause.....)


Are there some niggas out here being grimy? OF COURSE THERE ARE! That's all over though. Offline and online. Not saying that. What I am saying is that 'convicting cats' of doing so without proper context is UNWARRANTED like a motherfucker. That's what I am saying. You better start asking questions out here folks. Stop assuming. You'd be surprised what a STRAIGHT QUESTION WILL NET YOU. @ asking a woman or a man if they are 'involved with someone'. Most of the time, even if THEY LIKE YOU THEY WILL TELL YOU FROM THE GATE that they are. I can't believe I even have to type this shit to some of you. Especially those of you who proclaim you are SO SMART. -_-. I digress though.

Oh..and while I am 'up here', all of you folks who like to 'meet up with other folks' under the guise of common interest but YOU REALLY LIKE THE PERSON YOU ARE ASKING TO MEET UP WITH? Stop that shit. You are FAR WORSE THAN THE PERSON YOU SAY  'TWEETS LIKE HE/SHE IS SINGLE" At least they are being themselves. You are being dishonest. You don't want to meet because of your love of music(or whatever the activity in question is.). You want to meet because you want to see that person and your love of...(fill in the blank) I've seen MANY A PERSON GET ALL UP IN A HUFF 'CAUSE THEY MEET A PERSON AT A PLACE THAT SAID PERSON WAS GOING TO ANYWAY only to find out that person is 'taken'. Talking about 'They should have told me that..." Stop it out here. We are all adults. You are setting yourself up to fail.


Another thing that some of you fail to realize is that if YOU SEE THE CHARISMA, THE CHARM, THE WIT and like what you see in pictures, WHAT ON GOD'S GREEN EARTH MAKES YOU THINK YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO IS THE 'FINDER OF GOOD' IN PEOPLE? Do you HONESTLY THINK YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO HAS SEEN THIS? On or offline? Rule of thumb people. If  a person is a 'catch', just know that there are HANDS OUT THERE TRYING TO CATCH 'EM OR THEY HAVE PROBABLY ALREADY BEEN CAUGHT. Stop blaming folks who you are secretly pining after for not 'telling you they weren't available' when they were simply out here being the great person they are..* Which leads us into......





"I hate when (such and such) gets on line and fills my news feed/TL with all that talk about their bf/gf/husband/wife...I wish they would just stop..- You

So some of you asked for it to be 'upfront' and what do you do with that bit of information?

YOU COMPLAIN ABOUT IT. This is another one I always see in my TLs and feeds. These folks are being forthright with the info and what do YOU DO? You bash 'em for it. Can't make up your minds can you?

I would assume that I don't have to 'spell it out' why this takes place now that I have explained the FIRST ISSUE but some of you are dense so here I go.

I feel like the MAIN REASON (there may be others but I am not covering those today) is for the FOLKS I JUST DESCRIBED UP ABOVE. They are effectively cutting people off at the pass. Shit gets tiring as fuck (Which is why I never did/do it) and you sound like a broken record but the point is made. Allegedly:

Come this way because you think I look nice or I am nice and someone is there. You've been warned. 

I know...I know..They may be doing this because there may be some (gasp) insecurities in their relationship as well as nowadays BOTH PARTIES are on the same network. Which is THEIR BUSINESS btw. No relationship is perfect...** It isn't my relationship and I happen to know for a fact theirs is no more perfect than the rest of 'em out here. (Shrugs)

Some folks are appeasing their spouse which again, is their business** @ why they make these proclamations.

Hell, some folks ACTUALLY LIKE THEIR FUCKING SPOUSE AND ARE TELLING THE TRUTH. Just because you 'hate' that fool you chose doesn't mean it applies to everyone. Ever think of that? Anybody in any type of REAL COMMITTED relationship knows better than to put its contents all the way out there. You may ALWAYS love that person but there are some days that you don't 'like them at all' and that is okay. Putting it out there play by play though is NOT THE MOVE and they don't do that. That's just common sense. Who wants to have 'Just the other day you said you would do anything for your baby now it is 'Fuck her'" thrown back in their face? Not anyone with any type of common sense so you DON'T PUT EITHER ONE OF THEM OUT THERE TO BE SEEN. You keep it to yourself or your TRUSTED FOLKS. Not the whole Internet.

Some folks don't get on Twitter and Facebook to BE HARASSED DAILY by 'hollers' so they use it to fend them off FOR THEMSELVES. That's right. Some folks actually don't like the attention or know that NO GOOD CAN COME FROM IT.  Some folks are out here fighting the 'good fight' and it is the only way they know how to fight it.***

So you see, despite the fact that you think they are 'trying to annoy you and everyone else', folks usually do have a reason for doing this. Some of those reasons are caused by people LIKE YOURSELF. On both sides of the fence.


Now I am willing to bet that some of you had not drawn the parallels of the two sides of these two issues because you never stopped to think about the 'why' or the 'cause' of them. I personally think BOTH WAYS OF THINKING ARE PRETTY STUPID. I mean unless a person is out here asking you OUT on dates and shit, I don't see how one can LOGIC LEAP THAT FAR. I don't see how this could be 'so upsetting' that I would have to tweet about it, day in and day out. That's your OWN FAULT IMO. ****  Get a clue. Get a life. Keep it moving. Shit.

One shouldn't have to change being an outgoing and engaging person because you 'might end up liking them' in that way. FOH. Control your hormones PEOPLE dammit. Or deal with whatever comes with it when you find out their situation is 'different' than you had it made up to be in that pretty lil head of yours.***** Some folks aren't out here trying to broadcast their day to day relationship status JUST IN CASE you might wanna holler. 

I will say this though. Some of you people who pride yourself in being 'so smart' need to get a FUCKING CLUE. The context clues are there. You are either really stupid OR YOU DON'T WANT TO SEE THEM. (My money is on the latter actually...Easier to say 'He/she didn't come out and say it so it is THEIR FAULT....Sure you're right..- Barry White..) If you TRULY ARE CLUELESS then like I said..Smarten up Nas. I mean folks give you JUST ENOUGH TO LET YOU KNOW THERE IS SOMEONE IN THEIR LIFE even when it is not their 'job' to do it. Trust me. 


It is because of folks like YOURSELF that you (and the rest of us) have to ENDURE the relentless 'My bf/gf/wife/husband this....my (insert title) that...'....They feel like THEY HAVE TO DO IT less they be made out to be some 'monster who is out here leading folks on' and shit. They have probably been 'guilted' into talking about them just to have some fashion all the time for simply....well...just being themselves. Now if that isn't some bullshit to have to do...I don't know what is. 





Remember this please the next time you see that 'nice looking person' in their avi who always tweets/facebook's you back in the morning. Sometimes, it is just that. Them speaking and you responding. Please social network responsibly out here folks...





*If and when you do tell them though....More on that in another post. At another time.. 




**You folks slay me with not wanting to talk about 'what isn't perfect' in a relationship either like INSECURITY isn't the BIGGEST ONE. What the fuck you think folks are talking about? Leaving toilet seats up and cabinets open as being the 'biggest issues'? Issues are things like 'bad money management', infidelity, trust issues, insecurities, low self esteem, lack of communication, stubbornness, not compromising and shit like that. I hear all of you out here saying you 'wouldn't deal with shit like that' which is COOL BUT LETS KEEP IT FUNKY. These (and many more) are THE ISSUES that make relationships not perfect. Not..I like Jay-Z and she likes Nas..." Fuck on with that Joni Loves Chachi bullshit... @ petty ass problems.

*** They will learn that in time, if someone is going to approach them that no amount of preemptive ground work is going to persuade that person not to. It is life. Some folks are determined. The key is having the person you are with realize that too. lol 'Cause it can be hell if they don't or if they are in denial about the folks who approach them on the daily (even though they do 'nothing to provoke it'. )

****Which is funny considering there is an article making its way around 'Black Twitter' today about 'emotionally unavailable folks' and I blame them for it. Funny in an ironic way I can admit. I see this as being 'different' 'cause there is TRULY NO EFFORT BEING MADE BY THE PERSON BEING PURSUED. It is all a stretch by the person who is interested.


***** Lets keep it FUNKY ONCE AGAIN. If you like the person, you are GOING TO DEAL WITH 'WHATEVER IT IS YOU FIND OUT' AND IF YOU AREN'T THEN THERE IS NO HARM NO FOUL. Either way, life goes on. Either you find out they have someone and you are gonna stick around to see what it is (like COUNTLESS NUMBER OF PEOPLE HAVE DONE SINCE THE BEGINNING OF TIME) OR you are gonna say 'Fuck it...NEXT PERSON'. That's all there is to it.

(Interview/Video/Pictures) @ChrisSkillz X The Warehouse Exclusive X Quick 'School Night' Chat..

I FINALLY had to a chance to catch to Chris live and in person. Well worth coming out on a 'school night' for. Set was short but even with the limited number of songs, I got confirmation of everything I thought of the young man. He has the goods. Most cats have a fly name but don't live up to it. Not this cat. Nope. State City Music has a good one. Now I know you guys don't know me for the audio/video 'Chats'(interviews if you will..) but today I decided to switch things up a bit. We are going to sit down and talk more but here is a just a lil taste of what to expect in the future.* The 'chat' is a 'raw one' so if you are at work, turn it down a bit. Or wait 'till you can get at home or on your phone. He speaks on his new projects and such...One of which is FEATURED HERE on the homepage of the blog.





In case you can't get back there here is the link for that.http://thewarehous.blogspot.com/2011/11/mixtape-chrisskillz-x-beyond-sky.html  The link to download his music is there.


Get at Chris Skillz on Facebook as well as his Twitter handle that is in the blog's title post.. 

*I hate hearing myself talk. @ why you don't I don't do 'audio chats' that much but if I am going to call it the 'Chat Series,' well...audio might be in order.

(Words..) KEEP YOUR RELATIONSHIP and your bitter feelings off the Internet..

I won't get on here and wax on and on about how you should 'handle' your actual relationship's day to day but today's (well last night's) events involving one of the Black Al-Qaeda (That's Black Twitter's nickname that I have given it..) where his relationship was put all over the Net should serve as a lesson or two about what NOT TO DO AFTER YOU HAVE BROKEN UP.*

Well, several lessons actually:

Shit is real B. Lets just start there. It isn't 'just Twitter' anymore now is it? @ this bullshit.

Being an habitual line stepper has its ups and downs. Sometimes you are the stepper..other times folks step over a line of yours..

Hurt folks SAY A LOT OF SHIT and no matter WHAT YOU THINK YOU KNOW ABOUT A PERSON, HOW MUCH OF A CLOWN YOU OR YOUR GROUP OF FRIENDS THINKS THEY ARE, OR none of that other judgmental shit you niggas partake in on the regular, SOMEONE MIGHT JUST PUT THAT ASS ON BLAST EVEN WORSE THAN WHAT YOU 'SO CALLED' DO.

A nigga like me enjoys seeing assholes getting..well...asshole treatment..

You reap what you sow. You are just gonna have to take my word for it (or go look homie up) but he was (Who am I kidding, he'll be back at it again..) MORE THAN DOWN TO SLANDER FOLKS mercilessly. Just thumb through his recent images. It was all I saw. Slander...slander...more slander. I mean, it is HIS OPINION and he can have it but it is a kinda 'Live by the gun...die by the gun....' thing. Sorry. That's just how I see it. Example below..(Warning: I'd be easy 'blowing the picture up'..Graphic images in that image feed..)

Just read the type of shit that's being said out here...

I 'altered' the picture but LEFT enough clues up in it ON PURPOSE btw. I know some of you niggas are 'friends' with ole boy. This shit isn't a secret. @ the post. I'm actually just not like ya'll. I'm not here to 'embarrass' him but rather to WARN OTHERS OF HIS MISTAKE. Trust and believe if I wanted to 'BLAST YOUR BOY' like everyone else, I would be. Full name and all. I would also be a sucker though. I'll leave that to some of ya'll. Ya'll got me beat on that sucker ass shit. Just like that sucker shit up top that I just posted in the picture that he seemingly engaged in on the reg...

Now I didn't go back far enough into the story to see who actually bought this 'relationship'** to the Internet (or rather the break up) between the two of them but I did see several points where the releasing of a video could have been AVOIDED. I saw some screenshots of folks convos that QUITE FRANKLY I NOR ANYONE ELSE should have EVER seen, I saw the threat of 'nudes' and the usual 'I'mma slander you' threats/actions though. So naw, I don't feel sorry for him. Nope. I don't. Again, I heard he might have committed suicide but all signs are pointing that he didn't but guess what....

.....even if he did, I'd still type this up. Why? GO BACK UP THERE AND LOOK AT THAT PICTURE. Did you see what the nigga wrote? WHAT IF THAT GIRL HAD COMMITTED SUICIDE BEHIND THAT? I didn't see any of you getting at him for saying it. You'd be out here right now saying she 'didn't have to go and do all of that.."/she shouldn't be worried about what the 'World' thinks of her. Lie to me and say you wouldn't. Aight then. So in the event that the young man did take his life, I'm probably not the person to look to if you want me to say much more than...'Damm..." I mean what if his EX GIRLFRIEND, whose info he spewed all over the Net, committed suicide after REPEATED ATTEMPTS TO CALL 'NO JOY' ON THE SITUATION? The reaction would be?



Again, it isn't as if she is 'totally blameless' in this either. She has some blame. Taking the high road has never hurt anybody. Engaging him probably wasn't the best thing since he is a known 'asshole' (She should know that better than any of us if she dated him..)  But it appears to me she reached her 'point'. I can't get too mad at her for that and if he was her bf, he should have KNOWN AND RESPECTED her 'point'. I suspect some ego, pride and rep got in the way of that... I will say I think the kids comment is outta line though. @ her speaking on his kids. If I heard that right that is...

The thing is this. What those of us who had this permeate our timelines saw happens EVERY DAY on a much smaller scale amongst 'mutual friends' of the couple breaking up. The gossiping. The venting. The revelation of 'secrets'/the slander. Folks airing their dirty laundry and then getting mad/hurt/whatever enough to let some REAL BOMBSHELL SHIT OUT. Then the gloves come off and EVERYONE'S SPOT is blown up. You start talking to your 'friends' 'cause...well...you are hurt..and then the other person defends themselves with some 'info' and boom. EVERYONE HAS CONFIRMATION OF whatever it was they mighta thought (or hoped for as mofos are sad out here and love drama..) went on in your relationship. Not good. Not very mature.

So today's lesson is this kiddies..

KEEP YOUR RELATIONSHIPS (AND THEIR SUBSEQUENT BREAKUPS) off the Net (Hell, just even off the Net..) . For your own good. Trust me. Even in winning, if you ever make it to her TL, you will see remorse and regret***. I would even say keep the 'good shit' to a minimum as even that can prompt folks to 'tempt' you into slandering your ex as well..they are NOW YOUR EX 'FOR SOME REASON'. Just keep quiet. It works out better that way. Trust me. Very hard lesson to 'get' and even harder to have to learn the way the two folks did today.


 The other lesson might be to watch these false prophets but eh..... I think I have said more than enough already. Ya'll might not be ready to hear that shit just yet..



Sidenote: I wonder if his pride will let him 'peace out' of the situation? I mean at this point, leaking her nudes, while it may satisfy all of his male followers who wanted to see her naked anyway, would be pretty pointless right now. I mean what would it prove? That she is 'attractive' enough for him to fuck? That she has a vagina and some titties? I mean...duh.. You went out with her. I also hope that she takes her hand off the red button. It's over. I use these words lightly as neither one of their actions affects ME but at the same time I know how much 'followers' on Twitter REALLY ARE FOLLOWERS. They will take this shit to be 'the normal CORRECT' way to handle such situations 'till someone dies behind it. Then we'll back on that pseudo 'Gone to soon' bullshit ya'll like to throw out...



*I can't be up here on the blog taking folks to task for 'slandering folks' and then turn around and put ole boy's info up here. It is around. I think it is on its way to the NEWS as there is talk of 'suicide'. (Which I don't know if that happened...)


** I don't know WHO WAS RIGHT OR WRONG IN THE RELATIONSHIP. I wouldn't make that logic leap. I am talking about this part of it strictly. Three sides. Hers. His. Th truth. 

*** although again..she was backed into a corner. I won't lie. I would have done EXACTLY what she did at that point. You won't keep talking about me any old type of way and not get a MAJOR response at some point. Nope. Sorry. Doesn't make it 'right' but I understand..)


Oh btw, if EITHER ONE OF YA'LL happen to read this know this. 

This took me all of 15 mins. "Care' isn't something that I would use to describe me writing this. Interested? Yeah. Care? Eh...  So that said, if you 'don't care' what I think, GOOD. It is okay. You don't have to. Just remember TWO THINGS. 

...YOU CLICKED ON HERE TO SEE WHAT I SAID THOUGH JUST LIKE I DID TO SEE WHAT AND WHO YOU WERE. So lets just say we all were 'interested' and leave it at that? Aight?  


...I still haven't said your name and again if what I say doesn't matter, giving me 'credit' by either RTing this or coming at me KINDA VALIDATES IT. Ya know? The high road. Take it. Like one of you should have when you put your shit out there to the level you did to begin with. Now if you wanna 'talk to me', okay cool. But I'm not the one who gave folks ammo. You two did. Both of you did.

(Words) Dont judge me- You

(Chuckles) Where to begin with this one...


Well first off, you NIGGAS SLAY ME with the saying. Every time you use it, all I hear is this whining voice that says:

"Please don't slander mercilessly like I do others for the mundane shit they do 'cause deep down I KNOW I AM WRONG. I'm really just here for the LOLs and don't want to suffer from the mental anguish that I put others through on the daily with my immature take on their daily activities...Please spare my ULTRA SENSITIVE FEELINGS AS I CANNOT TAKE WHAT I DISH OUT. 

Sincerely, 

The Mental Midget That Is Me....


That's how I see that saying. I mean, do what you do! If you like to listen to Cyndi Lauper's "Girls Just Wanna Have Fun" while you strut around in a Tutu on Saturday mornings while you clean the upstairs of you Mom's house 'cause you don't have your own spot AS A HETRO MALE, that's your business. 

I mean if you wanna suck 4 dicks in one night 'cause it is a 'Once in a Lifetime' opportunity that your four favorite celebs are in one place at one time COOL!! 

Just don't expect me to 'not judge' you JUST AS HARSHLY if you are around here making Lilac and Lilly jokes about 'soft ass rappers'/ go in on what 'hoes know about' trending topics but partaking in suspect activities aight Champ? (Oh, you thought ONLY your favorite 'blogger' had that 'take it too far for the LOL thing? Been around for ever cuz..Stop that shit...)


(Takes another sip of Powerade) The flip side to this though...

Now in a perfect World, we wouldn't be judging each other. Not a perfect World. I judge folks all the time admittedly. What I DON'T DO IS RUN AROUND LIKE MY JUDGEMENT IS THE 'END ALL BE ALL' like some of you sad ass mofos do. Don't have a pot to piss nor window to throw it out of but you are out here 'judging' folks? FOH. Talking about:


"I'm judging you...." 

Motherfucker so what? Judge away nigga. You aren't DOING SHIT FOR ME ANYWAY SO WHAT THE FUCK DO I CARE ABOUT YOU AND YOUR JUDGEMENT? I mean I can't 'eat' off of your judgement. 

You some type of lawyer or something..somebody important or something?- Jay-Z 

Hell, even if you were, SO THE FUCK WHAT. I guess I am not meant to have 'whatever it is you can provide for me then' and NINE TIMES OUTTA TEN it isn't a basic need so fuck it. You can KEEP THAT SHIT. I don't want it from you and your condescending ass. That goes for ANY OF YOU. Fuck who you are to me. If you feel THAT WAY ABOUT IT, you can keep it. Word you can. If I SUSPECT YOU FEEL THAT WAY ABOUT IT, you can keep it. I don't want it...Whatever it is. Your 'respect' or whatever it is half you niggas only have to offer out here.

Summation for my 'more educated readers'  (Hey don't laugh...I have those...) : 

The ideal that one should even have to preface one's thoughts and desires with such remedial rhetoric such as "Don't judge me.." is one that must come to a halt. These are things that may have started as foolish childhood antics but that have now seeped into the very fiber of our being as adults. This must come to a complete halt if we are to continue further as a people.. The time to play 'secondary grade school' antics must cease. It is not proper decorum to hold fast to these type of displays of immaturity. Often times, the person who has to make such statements resides in a World where their own deeply rooted insecurities and short comings have caused them to ridicule others with GREAT FREQUENCIES. So much so that they begin to feel THE WHOLE WORLD FEELS LIKE THEY DO so they feel the need to start their statements with 'buffers' such as these. They don't want to be the subject of such ridicule themselves obviously so thus this plea cop. It is a 'deflection tool' if you will. Simple Jedi Mind tricks. Little do the they realize that most of us JUST DON'T GIVE THAT MUCH OF A FUCK UNLESS we see an opportunity to dish back some of the bullshit that they do to others on a daily basis.

I feel as though one should be able to do as they please without having to render themselves to the mercy of the thoughts of others. We are all human and we all judge each other in some way but it is not right. Even if a person holds a position of power, I don't feel one should have to 'cater' to that person's whim based on a judgement nor that said person dangling proverbial carrot should even be partaking in such activities. One should do all one can to not accept such behavior as they can probably do without said 'carrot. Tell them to kiss your ass and move on about your day.... 

I do feel though that if someone who is ALWAYS TH PERSON WHO RIDICULES folks just happens to show a chink in their armor, that it is 'Game on' so to speak in some capacity. In other words, I don't feel bad for them when Karma strikes them back in that way. I won't be saying much but I won't be getting in the way of those saying things either. 


In a perfect Utopia, we would all be worry free. Free of such hangups. Alas, here we are. On Earth. I urge you not to care about such folks who are so 'wrapped up in the activities of others that they seek out the LOL moment' but rather to ignore them. 

I've seen the sorrow they were meant for... (Hat tip to The Foreign Exchange...) - in regards to their fate. 

Good day.

(Words) He's Still Here.... - My Dad...

I mean just read the post man... @ who they are.

I don't remember intimate details of my Grandfather's death. I mean I know THE BASICS don't get me wrong but VERY LAST DETAIL? No. What I do remember are the days surrounding it and my own Father's 'shift' in Fatherhood and Manhood. It was huge. Definite impact. More thoughtful. Information started coming faster in regards to me. It was like watching some sort of 'passing of the guard' that was silently taking place. He took on even more than he had previously. He was QUIET for a long time though before it become outwardly apparent. There were days of REALLY THOUGHTFUL SILENCE and many a long run. Sometimes, I would run with him and sometimes off into the night he would go, alone. What I didn't understand then, I more than understand it now. @ the things that transpired during that time period.

Now before you go 'logic leaping', up until that point my Dad was an EXCELLENT DAD. So don't assume I am saying he was horrible. He was a young man in his late 30s to early 40s (I know some of you 19-20somethings think the word 'young' only applies to you but it doesn't..compare it to being 60ish. Broad range..) trying to raise a young BLACK MALE in a society that wasn't exactly 'as accepting' of young black males with VERY FEW LIVING ROLE MODELS TO PATTERN THEMSELVES AFTER. He was actually in the process of getting his OWN SHIT TOGETHER at the time, unbeknownst to the younger me at the time, by going BACK TO SCHOOL after having served his country. I didn't realize any of this at the time because unlike most parents today who come home and 'lay it all on their kids lap', he just DID HIS THING AND KEPT IT MOVING. I honestly thought EVERYONE'S parents worked two jobs, came home to crack open a book or two and every two weeks of the month went off to 'training' with their Military gear on. Then again, he surrounded me with folks who did so that's why I thought that. Again, didn't KNOW IT ALL AT THE TIME but all of that was done purposely. Even the MEN AND WOMEN who were childless and the like moved with a purpose. I say all that to say that he was still finding HIS WAY but knew he had to do it to make a way for me and he did that. I remember that vividly.

Anyhow, that time period stuck out in my head as I got a little older (I was 8 when my grandfather passed so lets say 11 or 12ish...). I would ask him about his own Father and where he was more 'reserved' (read: private and internal with his feelings)  in the past, he was now very candid. He told me that he wished he had been even more so before but he just didn't know 'how' but was glad that I kept asking. He told me that when I had some kids that I should try not to be so 'private' because they would remember, even if I thought they wouldn't. He was right because while I may not remember the 'finite' details of my grandfather's death, I remember JUST ABOUT EVERYTHING MY OWN FATHER did say at that time. I can only hope I'm doing this right in my own life. @ the sharing I am trying to do. I try to give 'em all that I know and if I don't know it, I try to find out. Just like mine did for me.

It is this time period that is helping me today, as I sit here and think about him on what would have been his birthday. My lil cousin shares this day with him (Happy birthday J!) and I remember just how much joy it would bring my Dad to call him on his birthday. More joy than he got from people calling him on his own for sure. Yes, my Father's birthday would often fall ON THANKSGIVING and while I was thankful for all the toys and other things I got over the years, as I got older and saw the hundreds of kids he was helping who DIDN'T HAVE A FATHER/he mentored/he just flat out helped raise in conjunction with their biological, I became more thankful for just HIM. Thankful for the exposure to many things and situations that I otherwise probably wouldn't have sought out on my own.

Now I am not gonna sit here and blow proverbial smoke up ya'lls (insert the word...ATTEMPTING TO KEEP THIS CLEAN...WISH ME LUCK) and say we just got along ALL THE TIME. Naw B. He was my Dad. I was JUST LIKE HIM. Which is to say we MORE THAN HAD OUR  SHARE OF 'ISSUES'. He was VERY HARD ON ME. In his own words, probably too hard. (I beg to differ with that at times as quite frankly, it was needed. I can say that NOW. Then? Eh...) I like to say he was doing what he thought was best and didn't wanna leave anything out. He did a GREAT JOB of doing something that comes with no manual and the mistakes he 'may have made' (Yeah..I'm gonna slander him on his birthday...I'm. Not. You. Nope..Sorry. Not gonna slander him. Next.) I learned from those too and am trying not to repeat them. Just like he asked me to. Gave me a lot of game early on in Life and gave me PLENTY MORE later on just by living. Whatever differences we did have, we worked them out like MEN. I hear a lot of you throwing around that 'phrase' like you know something about it. Nigga you don't know shit about that phrase if you are out here KILLING FOLKS behind your 'acting like men' mantra. That's not what men do. Men don't act like pussies and hide but part of being a man is owning up to YOUR PART of a situation and accepting folks apologies and the like. You know...that 'forgiveness' thing many of you view as a 'weakness'? Yeah that... He taught me that. It is VERY HARD TO DO but I've learned to at least ATTEMPT TO APPLY IT. Some of you could stand a taste of that or two...  Especially if you want others to 'help you' like you say they 'should'... There are a LOT OF YOU I WANT TO HELP IN ANY WAY I CAN but your lack of understanding of this VERY SIMPLE concept is stopping me...Another post. Another time perhaps.. @ this topic. (Sorry..I tried. @ clean..)

Today is pretty difficult but I want ya'll to send ANY ENERGY you have not to me but to my MOM. She is the one who could really use it today. From about 8 years old (Any of you elders reading this who wanna correct me..Go ahead! I wasn't there...You would know..I wouldn't..) to THIS VERY DAY, she has had that man intertwined in her life in some fashion. Yeah...go BACK AND READ WHAT I WROTE. I didn't say for EIGHT YEARS. I said SINCE EIGHT YEARS OLD. So yeah...send that her way at the very least and send her a lot. She needs it on this day. Send some to his living brothers and sisters too while you are at it. His nephew. His niece. His other son. That kid who JUST FOUND OUT THE OTHER DAY that he passed away and damm near passed out in front of me as I told him. Send some their way....

Yep, He's Still Here

This is going to sound a little weird but my Dad is still here. 

Obviously not in the physical but in our actions and in our hearts he is near. 

I remember thinking, morbid I know, just how I would be or how I would react. 

On days like these, when I think about him the most. Holidays, birthdays or other days of impact. 

Funny thing is, even when he was amongst us on the Earth but hundreds of miles away. 

I would hear his voice WITHOUT THE USE OF A PHONE or physical presence. Here's a taste of what he would say. 

If I was about to embark on something worthwhile his voice would come to me in my dreams at night..

He'd say "Well now boy I see you doing something worth a damm..I mighta done alright...

I see all the things I tried to tell you, you actually were paying attention. 

Shit, I thought they fell on deaf ears. I mean you never said a word or gave it a mention. 

I know I was hard on you Son but I did it because it was the only way I knew how. 

If I didn't say "I love you enough", know it wasn't cause I didn't. Let me say it now............ "

I also hear his voice while I am awake, usually when things go awry.

His presence is felt then too. Yeah, that's why I often look to the sky. 

Telling me to suck it up and act like I have a pair. 

Telling me that when things DO GET RIGHT AGAIN....to 'act like you been there'. 

Yeah man, I'm trying to tell you My Dad is still HERE AND IF NEED BE I will repeat.

Funny things is, I don't know if I'm saying it to convince you... or reminding myself so that I will feel complete.... 

I mean I don't want to be the weirdo who runs around like Nutso...

Tapping imaginary backboards and playing imaginary games with much vigor and gusto. 

Talking to 'ghosts of Christmas' pasts, cussing and laughing with my Dad when no one can see. 

Wait, I already do similar things like that, who I am kidding? I cope how I cope. Man this me. 

So yeah I'm gonna talk to him. Probably have a couple of odd things I do in his memory.

He is still here with me. Think like how Jay-Z would get them collect calls from his boy Emory.

He calls me up in my mind to drop a gem or two............................

(........Puts the proverbial pen down....We will be here all day... This 'poem' has no end....To be continued...)

(video) Cause you to me is Dr. Seuss to a Steinbeck A pro with the prose, what a concept- @Phontigallo

Things that I am thankful for... Good music. Enjoy the video..

Prose means Written or spoken language in its ordinary form, without metrical structure.fyi....

(Words) Honoring my favorite Veteran.... #happyveteransday

To a few of you this spot should look VERY FAMILIAR TO YOU. Lenoir, NC

Before I start the known debauchery that is Fun Friday* here on the blog, I just wanted to give thanks to all the men and women who put it on the line for us EVERY DAY. In a day where cats are out here throwing around the word 'soldier' and the like, there are ACTUAL REAL SOLDIERS OUT THERE TAKING ENEMY FIRE AND RISKING THEIR LIVES EVERY DAY. I, for one, salute you for it.

While we may not always agree on WHY we are at war, the fact remains, folks are out here sacrificing their lives for us to live the way we live. (What up JR Smith!? How's that 'No YouTube in China thing' working out for ya? Yeah...It is the simple things no?) For that I am thankful. If no more than for the freedom to be who I am and if for no less the freedom to actually have access to YouTube (In case you are dense, that is an EXAMPLE. Don't be so literal..).

Old North Rd. Lenoir, NC commonly known as "BushTown Rd..."

To my favorite Veteran: 


Thank you again. For everything. I know you are gone in the physical but you taught me how to live and learn from you even when you were here with us but not 'IN MY PRESENCE' so I'm pretty good. Miss the trash talking phone calls though and of course seeing you. But the lessons? Didn't forget those! Can still hear what you WOULD SAY so it is just like you are here. Kind of like you used to say about your Mother and Father. I fully understand now just how much you cherished those memories with what appeared to be a look of chagrin but what was more of a joyful memory in those times of 'need'. I get it now. I thought you were hurting when in fact you were healing. I find myself doing the same now. I understand.

Some of your former students, those dudes who you were pretty much THEIR FATHER TOO and colleagues told me to that they wished they had gotten to thank you. I tried to tell them the best way I knew how that just by living their life and becoming something, they did you proud. Some cried. Some just nodded their head. Others didn't know you even kept tabs. Perhaps their thoughts have reached you at this point. I know you hear all of my thoughts and ideas so I will refrain from typing out EVERY DETAIL here, as that is example that you set for me. Just wanted to say a few words publicly 'tis all. Don't mind me. You know how your son is. He is going to say what he is going to say. Again, thank you. For everything. 


Your Son



Again, some of you have VIVIDLY expressed your displeasure in your country's actions. Well within your rights to do so in my opinion. I only say this to you though if YOU REALLY CAN'T STAND HOW WE DO THINGS HERE IN THE UNITED STATES. 




 Move.


* If you knew my Daddy, you would KNOW that he never did mind ONE BIT OF DEBAUCHERY so if you are feeling 'some type of way' about this post being put up in the midst of 'WHATEVER' you may see on the side....Save that shit. He'd probably cuss you out himself and tell you about yourself. He wouldn't feel disrespected. At all. TRUST ME when I tell you.  

(Words) Today's edition of "The Reach": Folks opinions on @Drake's Take Care and Conrad Murray being found guilty of killing MJ..

Normally, I stay away from the 'hot button' topics because TWENTY MILLION PEOPLE weigh in them and folks seem to simultaneously think that they are 'speaking for the people' but still are the only ones who think the way they do. 

In other words, they tend to think people are 'stealing' their little ideals and shit and I don't have time for that small minded shit. The other reason is over saturation. I mean we all are talking about. Why today? 


Today, the two topics happen to go hand in hand with something I was going to write about anyway. The fact that some of you are STILL LISTENING/ACTIVELY SEEKING OUT TO LISTEN/GOING OUT OF YOUR WAY TO LISTEN, TO MUSIC THAT IS NOT MEANT FOR YOU, BY YOUR OWN ADMISSION, ANYWAY AND THE LEVEL OF 'RESPONSIBILITY YOU REFUSE TO TAKE FOR IT' ALL WHILE BLAMING EVERYONE ELSE FOR ITS EXISTENCE. 


What does that have to do with Conrad Murray? (If you are as smart as some of you claim, you ALREADY KNOW WHERE I AM GOING WITH THIS ONE..) Well.... it is true that he PROVIDED THE DRUGS for MJ but who TOOK THE DRUGS? Who had the issues to begin with and SOUGHT HIM OUT TO TAKE THE DRUGS KNOWING (Please don't feign ignorance and tell Mike didn't know. He did. Stop that shit.) the drugs were harmful and would have gotten them hook or crook? You know the answer to that one. Michael Joseph Jackson. Not Conrad Murray. Now, I have all of you 'The police/government/court system/etc' ain't shit' niggas, all in my social feeds out here talking about 'Justice served'. For a black man who was blamed for another black man's ADDICTIONS and vices. Word? That's how ya'll wanna carry this? So fuck the personal responsibility that Mike had? Naw B. Thing is, most of you didn't JUST GET TO FEELING THIS WAY. I will give you 'credit' for that. I will also chastise you for it though. Why? It is simple, you are making it seem like it is okay to just 'put the onus' on someone else when you have an issue. I mean for what it is worth, I am ALL FOR ACKNOWLEDGING FOLKS ARE SICK. I did that with Amy Winehouse. She was SICK. Should have been looked at as such. Michael was SICK. Should be looked at as such. What I WOULDN'T DO is demand that every Heroin dealer that ever came in contact with her on some 'Well somebody has to PAY..." type time. For what? Won't bring Amy back. It won't bring Mike back either. It SURELY WON'T STOP FOLKS WHO ARE OUT HERE USING AND SELLING THE STUFF EITHER so lets not play that card. If that were the case, folks would have stopped four celebrities ago. But ya'll keep making 'excuses' for folks. Just like you do in your own lives. It is NEVER YOUR FAULT.....






....which brings us to this Drake shit. Since the swell of the news of his album leaking out track by track to the masses, I promise you I have seen well over a thousand tweets/Facebook statuses,etc about the this album @ Take Care. 


The irony? It is mostly from folks who claim they don't 'care' about Drake. Oh the jokes are endless. He is 'softer' than (insert your joke here). Which are fine. Nobody is above being joked about if you want to say that. It's cool. Some of you out here though...boy let me tell you. You are doing THEE MOST out here. Reaching in for the "LOL" out here. Again, I am not against joking on the boy. Do your thing. Some of you are actually talented enough to do it and even when you OVERDUE IT some ( I said some niggas...) of the shit is WILD FUNNY.  Just understand what you look like out here when you dedicate your WHOLE TIMELINE TO HIM DAY AFTER DAY on some diss shit though. You are no different than the 'wack ass niggas' who diss YOU for liking the 'other elements of hip hop that certain folks bring to the table' who SEEK OUT MUSIC TO DISLIKE IT. Fair is fair. Cry me a river. @ this Drake shit. We get it. You don't like him.

You should just KNOW how CONTRADICTORY you look saying 'no one that I know is checking for the boy', when you take a listen EVERY TIME HE RELEASES NEW PRODUCT on that 'Well maybe this joint might be hot and I don't wanna miss it BUT I DOUBT IT 'CAUSE HE IS WACK' mantra you keep running with. You look foolish. Never in my life have I checked for ANYONE I CONSIDER AS WACK AS SOME OF YOU CONSIDER DRAKE. Never. Same way I don't check for 'lames'* in real life. 

I guess this is the part where I am supposed to say "I don't 'understand' why you folks keep checking for him though" huh? Nope. I try not to say that ESPECIALLY WHEN I KNOW WHY. 




You are afraid that his 'emotions' will be accepted as the norm and you will actually have to act 'non tough' and stop acting emotionally available to get pussy. Which is the DUMBEST SHIT EVER btw. Just be yourself. Shit. He is. Look, if Ralph Tresvant's ass didn't stop niggas from getting pussy, there is no way DRAKE WILL. If that BabyFace 'I'll pay your rent.."** thing didn't last than this too shall pass. Stop sweating it.




Here is the ULTIMATE IRONY OF THIS THOUGH:




 YOUR FAVORITE RAPPER, when he isn't out here trying to impress you with is 'street cred' or the other stuff, LOVES DRAKE. Quotes him all the time. Collabs with him. Thinks he is ill. So when you are making those jokes are you talking about YOUR FAVORITE RAPPER TOO? Or is he/she exempt from that? Inquiring minds want to know. You want me to name names? @ rappers


Okay...COOL. I will. 


Meek QUOTES HIM OFTEN on Twitter... Joe Buddens.....QUOTES HIM OFTEN. The real GHOSTFACE? He has ACTUALLY GIVEN HIM PROPS. Jeezy? He has songs with him. 'Ye? Yep......Jay-Z (My FAVORITE RAPPER)...YOU KNOW IT... @ props. Phonte (2nd/3rd favorite rapper OF MINE) ? Didn't like the backhand compliment BUT HAS GIVEN HIM PROPS FOR HIS LYRICAL ABILITY. I can keep going..Bun B......yup....You want me to stop? I have more...I'll chill.....All respected lyricists.  I don't think I have to though now do I? 


Again, MAKE ALL THE JOKES YOU WANT. Some of them are deserved honestly. Just know that it is your OWN FAULT for torturing your OWN EARS when you 'listen' to folks you don't like. You hanging with folks that 'like' Drake like that but that isn't your style? Switch your planes- Jay-Z. (If you are a fan of hip hop, you get the reference..) 

Yes, I know...everyone you talk to talks about him. Not really. The folks I hear talking about him THE MOST ARE THE FOLKS WHO 'HATE HIM'. How ironic is THAT SHIT? In case you STILL DON'T GET WHAT I AM TRYING TO SAY..Refer to the pictures. They say it all.




Sorry if you caught a stray bullet in this one. If this means we can't be 'friends', so be it. I mean....Ya'll catch me with 'em all the time though. I don't bitch about it. I keep pressing on.

*I hate that saying but it is the only 


**Soon I Get Home From Work.......I'll buy your clothes....It was all good until niggas thought they owned a bitch and then GALS CAUGHT ON and 'poof', that shit disappeared. Trust me, this 'Fuck that nigga....' shit will die down too. Besides, he isn't the first to say it. Do your research.  b